blame or gain?

I've noticed its a lot easier to blame people or circumstances for our problems than look within ourselves and change our outlook.

Some things happen that are beyond our control. But it is how we respond to those things that will determine the rest of our life.

If our default position in life is to blame people or circumstances we'll never be satisfied. We'll always be looking for the repayment of the things people or life owes us for whatever happened.

We'll never grow because we'll be tied to the past.

Blame is the breeding ground for bitterness. Bitterness is the seed of self destruction.

Owning the issue. Looking at it. Dealing with it. Resolving it, may be the hardest thing you'll ever do. But its worth it.

In U2's song "Yahweh" Bono sings, "Yahweh, Yahweh always pain before a child is born"
To not blame is to face the pain, to own it. Then move on. A new era in your life will be born.

When I was in Sydney doing a leadership training conference our physical trainer drummed into us as we were pushing our personal fitness levels that "pain is weakness leaving our body."
As I ran up hills, did squats , pushups and pushed myself to my utter limits I grew mentally. Had I just submitted to the pain and stopped running I would have never have known what my true physical capacity was.
My point is, if you don't blame, but learn, resolve, face it, deal with it, etc, etc...The pain we feel in that process is the weakness the issue produces making a quick exit from our soul.

lastly ponder on this...
The blame is already taken. You have no need to carry it. Let it go.

Eph 1:4 For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love.
God holds nothing against us, why would we hold anything against anyone? In the end it will destroy you, not them.

Let it go. You could be so much more.

The Journey

Life is a journey not an event.
Sometimes our error can be to stay at an event too long.
One of the saddest things to see is a person who is still caught in an event in their life that happened 20 years ago. The longer they stay there, the more crippling it becomes. Even if it was the good old days.
For whatever reason I find it very tempting to set up camp where I'm at, accept my lot in life and be comfortable. I think its the security that attracts me to that.
Now don't get me wrong. I am quite happy with who I am. Its just I know that there is so much more than what I'm doing right now. Its the same with you.
No matter where you are at there is so much more to be had!

The key is to walk on. Keep moving. To keep dreaming.

A machine is most likely to seize up when its not in operation. The operator will come to switch on the machine, but it can no longer perform the purpose for which it was created because it sat immobile for too long.

The classic old Psalm says this "Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me." (Ps 23:4 NIV)
Notice that scripture doesn't say "even though I stop in the valley"

We have to keep walking. No matter how hard it gets...and trust me it will get hard.

Don't get caught in the event. Keep on walking the journey ahead, your the only one who can walk it.