blame or gain?

I've noticed its a lot easier to blame people or circumstances for our problems than look within ourselves and change our outlook.

Some things happen that are beyond our control. But it is how we respond to those things that will determine the rest of our life.

If our default position in life is to blame people or circumstances we'll never be satisfied. We'll always be looking for the repayment of the things people or life owes us for whatever happened.

We'll never grow because we'll be tied to the past.

Blame is the breeding ground for bitterness. Bitterness is the seed of self destruction.

Owning the issue. Looking at it. Dealing with it. Resolving it, may be the hardest thing you'll ever do. But its worth it.

In U2's song "Yahweh" Bono sings, "Yahweh, Yahweh always pain before a child is born"
To not blame is to face the pain, to own it. Then move on. A new era in your life will be born.

When I was in Sydney doing a leadership training conference our physical trainer drummed into us as we were pushing our personal fitness levels that "pain is weakness leaving our body."
As I ran up hills, did squats , pushups and pushed myself to my utter limits I grew mentally. Had I just submitted to the pain and stopped running I would have never have known what my true physical capacity was.
My point is, if you don't blame, but learn, resolve, face it, deal with it, etc, etc...The pain we feel in that process is the weakness the issue produces making a quick exit from our soul.

lastly ponder on this...
The blame is already taken. You have no need to carry it. Let it go.

Eph 1:4 For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love.
God holds nothing against us, why would we hold anything against anyone? In the end it will destroy you, not them.

Let it go. You could be so much more.